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I’m an aspiring actor and have been told point flat that my skills are not cutting it by my family; however, my acting coaches and fellow acting partners have told me otherwise.
I always feel like sometimes family can be on the hate mode for achieving ones dreams. Any thoughts?

Hi Miss annoyed with no room to be miserable-
What can be more challenging then family members who may not have much going for themselves, but quick to hate on someone else’s dreams. You by all means have the right to be annoyed, because these types of people are annoying and quick to give sharp tongues, not or knowingly effective enough to sway you from what you really want to do. I say move on and do what you want to do!
I’ve always said there’s no room for haters or naysayers. We all have a gift and skill, and if someone wishes not to see their talents flourish and go about what if and could then that’s on them. Though relatives are thicker than water (supposedly), it’s up to you to share what and if any details with negative people. The bottom-line is you know what their response will be; Therefore, prove your gifts by being the best you can be and keep it moving, by not keeping them in the loop.

I have 3 god-children and was recently told by one of the mother’s that my god-child needs braces and she feels I should foot the bill of this expense. I know what my reaction is but wanted your vent spin on this tricky matter.

Annoyed god-mommy

 

Well, Annoyed god- mommy I can see how that would irk you. I don’t know what it is, where some people put others in weird predicaments. I feel that being a god- parent is a huge honor
But not at the expense of trying to use someone as an herb, or in English terms trying to use someone as a dupe. Unfortunately, many people use a god-parent or expect a god-parent to act as just that a parent, taking on the same responsibilities
they need to handle. All you can do is be your best and this does not always mean having to come to the rescue of buying this child something every moment.
I can think of many instances where it’s a parent’s responsibility as well to express to the child that their god parent isn’t to be used as a second bank or the back up for wants and needs. The child should be comfortable to pick up a phone to reciprocate a relationship with their god- parents as well, but this all falls on the shoulder of the parent to teach their child these simple steps. As for to sum up the answer to your question, have a heart to heart with the parent and express how you don’t feel it’s your place to foot the bill for this huge expense. If you’re willing to compromise assisting in a portion than that should be doable, but if the parent still persists than give her a copy and paste to the latter on what a god-parent should and should not do.
Good luck.

By Yolanda Brunson-Sarrabo            

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